Do you prefer to smile or cry?


I don’t know if you’ve ever had a pet, but I remember still today the time when I had to accompany my beloved mutt dog, Pepper, to be put down. I remember crying that big gulpy sob. My friend and fellow author, Ryan Berman, who wrote Return on Courage, and who has been a guest on my podcast, recently wrote about how he (and his household) lost Herman, their beloved pooch. [Sorry for your loss, Ryan]. To deal with it, he invoked the wisdom of Dr Seuss:

“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”

This made me think straight back to my last day with Pepper. And, even as I write, I smile at the memory of her beautiful eyes.

But should one not cry, I wonder? Is it a sign of weakness or a sign of courage to cry? In today’s world, I am genuinely perplexed. Ming-Hui Yuang and Roland Rust have called this, The Feeling Economy. Rene Brown writes about The Power of Vulnerability. But then we have Jon Haidt and Greg Lukianoff with The Coddling of the American Mind and Nassim Taleb’s Anti-Fragile.

Should we cry or smile?

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