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I would add that the difficult part is that the result of the conflict does not necessarily appear at the "end of the conflict". When is the end? When is the actual resolution of the conflict? The belligerents might be satisfied time! after as the resolution of a conflict might take years, in a process of back and forth, each side takes the toll and guilt of its position. A conflict will continue to be resolved over years. Look at family conflicts, it takes time to gain a sense of resolution, and sometimes it comes in surprising ways, and unexpected time when another event comes and modify the dynamics.

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Time is indeed a great healer! And to your point, some conversations need to happen over time, with different iterations. Afterward, it depends on the intentions of both parties to really want to listen and understand the other side's POV. Conclusion and/or resolution presumably lies in the eye of the beholder (assuming both parties didn't collude on what the purpose of the conversation/exchange was in the first place)?

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