This is so good to read even if we think we know how to deal with it, these situations are always so different and difficult. How would I calm myself down if I was that angry person? Looking forward to the upcoming episodes that you mentioned!
Yesterday at a dinner party with a bunch of authors, journalists in their 70's therefore a massive amount of experience and strong egos, I witness an increasing tension in a conversation.
First: Body language, sneers!! many kinds of facial expression of scorn or disgust including use of mouth, shoulders, hands, look of disdain, rolling eyes. That already said there will be NO conversation.
Response was defensive with arguments, and progressive tone of voice leading to irritation.
The counter attack augmented with arguments of: non sense, silly, not the point, nothing to do what what I said, and the sneers.
Result: escalation
Then, one publisher said, it is time to go to bed.
Total: dismissing the whole point of the conversation and angry guests going to bed.
This is so good to read even if we think we know how to deal with it, these situations are always so different and difficult. How would I calm myself down if I was that angry person? Looking forward to the upcoming episodes that you mentioned!
For me to un-anger myself, I suspect it takes recognising my own state in the first place and then trying to figure out WHY I'm getting so worked up.
Yesterday at a dinner party with a bunch of authors, journalists in their 70's therefore a massive amount of experience and strong egos, I witness an increasing tension in a conversation.
First: Body language, sneers!! many kinds of facial expression of scorn or disgust including use of mouth, shoulders, hands, look of disdain, rolling eyes. That already said there will be NO conversation.
Response was defensive with arguments, and progressive tone of voice leading to irritation.
The counter attack augmented with arguments of: non sense, silly, not the point, nothing to do what what I said, and the sneers.
Result: escalation
Then, one publisher said, it is time to go to bed.
Total: dismissing the whole point of the conversation and angry guests going to bed.
Don't escalate the situation
Some people just aren't prepared to engage in a two-way discussion. Not open for business, they are.